Really appreciate everyones responses on this thread chat.I'm not married but the common thread is connection. I wish I could find connections with others but sometimes people don't connect with me cause I'm not married.I dont know...I'm just babbling now.I just really appreciated this thread. If you shared and want to chat more, I'd like too!Larry
Had you been certified I was going to respond to you with some ideas.
Honestly, as a men's sexual confidence coach, this is a lot more normal than most men realise, especially as we get older.
Can the boat be turned around? Sometimes, but only if both people actually want to get back in it. If your wife has completely lost interest and its been years, you cant desire her back into desire.
That doesnt mean your sex life has to be over though. Masturbation is absolutely the way to go. Not as some sad second-best, but as a healthy, normal way of staying connected to your own body, your pleasure, and that side of yourself without putting pressure on someone who clearly isnt in the same place.
Youve not failed. Youre just dealing with a very common, very human situation. x
Looks like a lot of us are in the same situation with wife's that have lost interest. As a teen a group of us guys use to look at Playboy mags and circle jerk. Now as an older guy I love to go to male only resorts or bathhouses and relive my teen years. I am still lucky as my wife still enjoys going to nudist resorts. My dream would to be able to find another couple that loves to travel and us guys could play.
I am a 75 year old fairly normal guy. I have had a wonderful marraige to my dear wife for 54 years. Younger guys, and some of us older ones, forget a lady is born with a limited number of eggs. Once purberty hits, her hormones of course kick in. The is nature urging making babies. Thus we enjoy those years with our lady. Once the eggs run out, usually in 50s to late 60s, those hormones simply go away. We should not play the 'blame game'. No hormones, the libido goes away. If we truely love out lady, we adapt.
Having said that, we are born with unlimited sperm production and the 'needy' hormones to go with it. Most of us will be horney until the last breath. Long ago, as my lady's libido went, she made me feel comfortable 'enjoying myself'. No issue at all. A few times I have enjoyed with close freinds in the same situation. I consider myself safe, and ladies still turn my head. So all is good. Having prostate cancer about four years ago, and removal surgery, makes things a bit more difficult, but I still enjoy this male part of my life
Lets all remember this is a normal stage for married guys. Rarely does a wife stay active after menopause ( end of her eggs). Discuss with her, but do not make her feel guilty. She can't help it, just nature. If you and your lady consider medical hormones for her, please research and and consult your doctor(s) about hormones can possibly increase the chance of her getting cancer.
All of these are personal choices. If you love your lady, simply chat with her about how you both deal with it. Hopefully you will come to understanding that works for you. And hopefully your lady will be as accepting as mine. Whatever the case, no matter how much we guys enjoy the sexual part of our lives, it is not worth risking a good long marraige when things change because of the natural stage of our lady.
Ok, off my soap box...LOL
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