Unable to Orgasm
In July of this year i had an operation on my Prostate Gland which was enlarged and was pressing on my bladder makeing it difficult to pass urine the only cure to this was to have a TURPS operation where they pass a electrical probe through the Ureathral Canal and then cut away part of the Prostate Gland The downside of this type of operation is that it then makes it impossible to have an orgasm you can still get an erection and an orgasm but semen does not come out of the penis at orgasm i feel that i cant have sex with another guy as he would be disapointed that i cant reach an outwardly showing orgasm and i am some kind of freak are there any other guys out there with this problem and what do they do about it
Of course, you can orgasm, as your post indicates. A childhood friend had the operation, and the side effect. His doctor told him if he ever wanted children, they could centrifuge sperm out of his urine, and use that. But apart from that concern, he just let his partner know what the change was, substituted a verbal signal for the physical one, and went on with life.
You seem to be doing pretty well. You're having erections AND orgasms. What you don't have is the ejaculate. I believe that you could learn to live without that. Some individuals undergoing this procedure end up not being able to have an erection at all. Some have a partial erection that is not strong enough to penetrate properly. In these cases, both you and your partner suffer.
Father time keeps taking things away from us all. Be thankful for medical science that can correct a lot of our problems even if there are some side effects that we must endure. The alternate is a lot more pain and suffering to where we reach the point that death becomes preferable toliving.
There are people who are too embarrassed to discuss things like this with their doctor. Perhaps with additional information that has been provided here, that will give them the courage to make the appropriate calls.
Right on! For years a lot of women were dying of breast cancer because they were "too embarrassed" to see a doctor. Now it is fashionable to have regular breast exams. Male problems are no less critical. Personally, I am very thankful that there are all of these various scopes that doctors can stick into every orifice of your body.
Getting prompt medical attention can be compared to taking care of your car. When you car starts making strange noises you can do one of two things. Take it into get it checked and repaired while the bill will be more manageable; or ignore the noise, turn upthe radio and pretend that the problem doesn't exist. When the car dies, then you can pay an enormous repair bill or junk the car. It's your choice and you can choose to treat your body the same way.
Unlike the response that this is more suitable for a Playboy magazine, I find this is a very good question/problem to bring to this forum. I don't know that I have a good answer other than that to quell your fears. I believe most men who would engage in an intimate encounter wouldn't have a problem with your issue at all. It's a human issue and like most human issues there is no one good answer. If you are able to orgasm, then all is well. 99% of ejaculate is not sperm anyway. It's seminal fluid. Just a viscuous liquid to carry the sperm to the intended destination. And that destination is solely up to those engaged. So I say, just enjoy the fact that you can orgasm and forget the rest.
#19I have a check up once a year and get the finger. At one point I was peeing a lot and a little at a time. Went to Dr. and he prescribed flowmax which worked but really don't like putting chems in the body if I don't need to . I already have to take blood pressure medicine, that's bad enough (which might account for my decline of semen after reading this. Will have to ask my doctor on my next visit). I started drinking cranberry juice and after a bit, got my pee stream back. Now I drink it every time I take my pills.
One of the side effects of Flowmax is decreased amount of seminal fluid. Your orgasms may come up dry.
Sam original question contained the statement that his male partner would feel let down that he did not ejaculate and would feel him a freak.
As a gay man my only advice would be to talk to the person you are with first and let him know what the condition is and the effects it has on you and most guys would be caring enough to carry on and not make you feel like a freak.
In the end it is the love and pleasure that is important more than how much semen you can produce.
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